Different people prefer different ways of showing and receiving love from their partner. “Some may prefer to spend as much time with their partner as they can, while others feel connected when their partner helps around the house,” Chlipala says. It’s important to identify your partner’s top love language, so you can make them feel supported.
While in the back of their mind, your partner knows that you love and care about them, sometimes they may need you to put in extra effort to show that you understand what they need from you. If you take the time to learn your partner’s desires, you will both end up feeling more emotionally and romantically fulfilled.
It can be hard to carve out time for our partners, but routine shouldn't have to make you feel distant from your significant other. Try one of these things or all of them — the most important thing is that you and your partner continue to put in effort to stay connected and close.
Additional reporting by Eden Lichterman.
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Salimpoor, V. N., Benovoy, M., Larcher, K., Dagher, A., & Zatorre, R. J. (2011, January 9). Anatomically distinct dopamine release during anticipation and experience of peak emotion to music. Retrieved from https://www.nature.com/articles/nn.2726.
Experts:
Nicole Richardson, LPC-S, LMFT
Candice Smith, sex expert and founder of Two to Tango Intimacy Coaching
Irene Fehr, sex and intimacy coach
Jamie LeClaire, sexuality educator and writer
Stef Safran, matchmaker and owner of Stef and the City
Tyler Turk, founder of Crated With Love
Richard Horowitz, professional educator and cofounder of Growing Great Relationships
Anita A. Chlipala, LMFT and author of First Comes Us: The Busy Couple’s Guide to Lasting Love
Sarah Watson, licensed professional counselor and sex therapist
Dr. Stefani Threadgill Briggs, sex therapist and sexologist
Nina Rubin, Gestalt life coach and psychotherapist
Laney Zuckerman, author and relationship coach
Mike Goldstein, founder of EZ Dating Coach
Julia Bekker, matchmaker and dating coach with Hunting Maven
Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure
Susan Trombetti, matchmaker and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking
Noelle Cordeaux, sexologist and co-founder of JRNI
Laura Bilotta, author of Single in the City and host of the “Dating and Relationship Talk Show,”
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